Things I Learned from a 3-Years-Interfaith-and-Long-Distance-Relationship
A few weeks ago, i just got out of my very first romantic relationship. We were together for three years, we passed too many happy and sad moments together, we learned about each other’s faith and we embraced diversity in ourselves, we spent almost two years trusting each other from distance, sometimes we lied to our parents to spend times together, we gave presents, and we talked to each other almost all the time. I don’t know what was it if it wasn’t love. But i’m only 20 y.o and he was my first boyfriend so what do i know about love?
All i know is that i feel safe whenever he’s around, i can imagine us spending or life together, our wedding would be awesome because we both spend lots of our time working on designs, we would have two children, the eldest is a boy and the youngest will be a girl. He’d make a great dad to them and i’ll learn how to cook as great as my mom. We will live in an amazing house, we’ll both pursue our dream jobs or we build our own empire. And everyday, i’ll wake up next to him, knowing that whatever comes in life, i’ll face it together with him.
This relationship has given me so much learnings. I have been able to keep up this relationship for three years because i’m a faithful person, a good listener, and i’m not a self-centred person. I know that i’m worth a lot and i have God by my side, powering me with His love.
But i also learned that may be, if i ever love again, i should never tear down those walls i used to build to protect myself, i should never expect much from a relationship because it fails all the time, i should never ever involve in an inter-faith relationship because it leads you nowhere, i should put more focus on devoting my life to God rather than depending on a person that could easily kick you out of their life, i should never involve in a relationship that requires me to choose on lying to my parents, and last, i should be a good friend to every friends i had because they will contribute a lot in
helping me moved on from every failures i might face in the future.
Until this post is written, love hurts, so bad. It hurts so much more knowing that the guy has moved on, making me feel like this shitty girl he can invite in and kick out easily.